Teens: When one parent’s overly critical attitude towards the child leads to divorce

Teens are a handful to deal with, everybody knows this. For some parents, the pressure to have high achieving kids is great and they overcompensate for their own anxieties by flooding the child or children with an overabundance of criticism. This can cause great anxiety and if the strategy is not one shared by both … Continue reading “Teens: When one parent’s overly critical attitude towards the child leads to divorce”

Education Costs & Divorce: Judge Rules Amount Requested for School Tuition excessive

A UK judge has set a limit to the amount a divorcing mother could reasonably receive for tuition costs for her teenagers. The mother was requesting, in total, well over £150,000 from her former husband who is quite affluent and £60,000 was for out of school tutoring annually. The judge questioned how much of that … Continue reading “Education Costs & Divorce: Judge Rules Amount Requested for School Tuition excessive”

On crafting a post-divorce parenting plan for teens

Teens and Divorce are usually a tough combination to circumnavigate. One of the main issues is custody & visitation. The challenge is how to craft a meaningful parenting plan that will be effective and that both teens and parents will love. Here are some of the things to consider in crafting a parenting plan that … Continue reading “On crafting a post-divorce parenting plan for teens”

Concerned about how your teenagers will handle your divorce? What to look for, how you can help

Some time back, a MTV casting producer contacted us about posting an announcement on Divorce Saloon. The network was casting a new docu-series about teenagers and divorce and were looking for participants. We were happy to post the announcement and tweeted about it too. But it occurred to me that we haven’t targeted a whole lot of … Continue reading “Concerned about how your teenagers will handle your divorce? What to look for, how you can help”

After the divorce: So now that your teen is heading to college what is your ex legally required to pay?

So what’s the deal with college tuition? Typically, your ex will be ordered to pay something towards tuition especially if you and your ex and your family members went to college. The in state tuition rate at the public college in your state is usually the benchmark. But for high income couples, obviously, that will … Continue reading “After the divorce: So now that your teen is heading to college what is your ex legally required to pay?”

Been awarded custody but your teen doesn’t want to live with you?

WHEN YOUR TEEN DOESN’T WANT TO LIVE WITH YOU, AFTER DIVORCE I did Lisa Decker’s teleseminar tonight where she was speaking with author Ellen Kellner who has written a book about post-divorce parenting in a pro-child way. Ellen’s website is at www.theprochildway.com. One of the things she talked about is the need for parents to … Continue reading “Been awarded custody but your teen doesn’t want to live with you?”

So your teen wants to divorce YOU

Teens, generally speaking, can be mercurial creatures, can’t they? And they can also very dramatic. The idea of “divorcing” their parents is not one that the average teen today would find unthinkable. It is not just the movies that we see this happening. The law even allows teens to “emancipate” themselves and to be declared legal adults.  Many … Continue reading “So your teen wants to divorce YOU”

How is your divorce really affecting your teen? Check out the non-verbal cues

Grannie always said “actions speak louder than words.” And that is so true. The website TalkingTeenage.com left a message on our tweetdeck yesterday which was “pay attention to what teens are not saying, watch their behavior.” That was a great point. Parents who are divorcing may not be aware of how deeply this is affecting … Continue reading “How is your divorce really affecting your teen? Check out the non-verbal cues”

Divorce Advice: What to do when your teen hates you for taking them away from all their friends

The first thing I would try to do is to not take the kids away from their friends if at all possible. Studies show that the least amount of disruption in the lives of children post-divorce, the better off everybody is. The main disruption beside the fact that the family as they know it has … Continue reading “Divorce Advice: What to do when your teen hates you for taking them away from all their friends”

Does divorce intensify sibling rivalry in teenagers?

A friend of mine got into a car accident the other day. She was driving her two girls, 13 and 11, to batting practice when one of the girls let out a screech. Turns out one sister had scratched the other and left ugly red welts on the other’s leg. The screech the injured sister … Continue reading “Does divorce intensify sibling rivalry in teenagers?”

When divorce drives teens into rehab

There is an increasing number of teenagers in rehab these days. Many of these teens are the product of divorce parents. Is there a correlation? Are parents responsible for their teens’ drug and alcohol problems? Or is it the culture and times in which we are living? Or could it be a little bit of both? Hollywood … Continue reading “When divorce drives teens into rehab”

10 reasons why it’s bad to force your teens to pick sides in your divorce

HERE ARE 10 REASONS WHY A PARENT SHOULD NOT FORCE KIDS TO PICK SIDES WHEN THEY DIVORCE 1. The kids could end up hating you if not now, then later when they realize what a number you did on them and how you destroyed the parent/child bond they had with the other parent. 2. It … Continue reading “10 reasons why it’s bad to force your teens to pick sides in your divorce”

Teens & divorce: Can divorce force teens into the workforce prematurely?

Teens sometimes are forced into the workforce prematurely. This is due to the unavoidable life event called divorce. Divorce can completely rework the financial DNA of a family. The weak economy has only exacerbated this trend. Divorce rearranges the economic dynamic of a family. Most people agree that women and children are often the financial victims of … Continue reading “Teens & divorce: Can divorce force teens into the workforce prematurely?”

Divorce & teen suicide rates

Ex Idol Fantasia Barrino (yes, we know she’s not a teen) was apparently admitted to a hospital on suspicion of a drug overdose. No word whether it was accidental or intentional. But this news comes on the heel of scandalous allegations by a North Carolina woman about Barrino and said woman’s husband. The woman is … Continue reading “Divorce & teen suicide rates”

Do White and Black kids respond differently to parental divorce? If so, which group is more adversely affected?

There are some studies that suggest that White and Black teens react differently to their parents divorce. Surprisingly, there is some indication that White teens take the divorce harder and have a tougher time adjusting. Not too sure why that might be. But if I had to guess, I think Black teens may have more … Continue reading “Do White and Black kids respond differently to parental divorce? If so, which group is more adversely affected?”

Does your teen blame herself for your divorce? 5 Tips for helping her get over that

With the news of Rudy Giuliani’s daughter’s arrest for alleged shop-lifting still so fresh on the mind, I thought of this post geared towards parents with teens. As we all know by now, teens probably take their parents’ divorce harder than any other age group. A lot of times, they act out horribly and parents … Continue reading “Does your teen blame herself for your divorce? 5 Tips for helping her get over that”