Something is icky about this notion, I think. But maybe I am being too prudish, who knows?
Nobody can predict how they will respond in all situations and certainly when it comes to the divorce, and being asked for one, people’s reactions run the gamut. One reaction is raw, unchecked rage. We all prefer not to think about that. Because what do you do with the person who becomes so unhinged by […]
It is hard to even imagine being at the receiving end of a conversation like this where you think you are in a happy, stable marriage and wham! Your spouse just hits you with this crow bar which started innocently enough “honey, we need to talk.”
Married to a narc Are you married to a narcissist? Or are you one? And is this wrecking your marriage, aka driving you to divorce court? Or maybe you haven’t put a label on it but you know that something is off in your relationship and you feel yourself becoming increasingly unhappy and thoughts of divorce […]
Want to Save Your Marriage? Repeat this phrase: “It’s My Fault that My Marriage is not Meeting My Expectations”
That’s right. Don’t blame your spouse for the implosion of your marriage. Look at yourself and all your unrealistic expectations. How did you contribute to this marital meltdown without meaning to? So many possible ways. For example you did it by: Being judgmental Not listening Wanting everything to be your way or the highway Being […]
You can fake almost any emotion. Did you know that? And one of those emotions that you can fake is “love.” In fact, so powerful is this tool of faking emotions, that you can use it to save a marriage that has been declared dead by the marriage coroner – assuming you are even interested in […]
The way a couple communicates will determine whether their marriage will last or not. There are 4 key indicators of healthy communication between partners – and conversely, 4 key indicators of unhealthy communication. The healthy communication obviously will lead to more successful marriages and the unhealthy communication necessarily will lead to unsuccessful marriages. Here are […]
So you are married and miserable. You are thinking about divorce but the thought of being “single” sounds like contracting a dreaded disease. Surely being in an unhealthy, unhappy, unfulfilling marriage is better than being single and all by yourself with nobody to be miserable with. Right? It depends. For some people, being single just […]
It does seem like a lot of divorces in one lifetime when you hit 3 divorces. It seems that this is the tipping point. Three divorces. After that, it’s enough. Don’t marry again. This is what a 3rd divorce should tell you. You are not the marrying kind. Jennifer Lopez has had three divorces. As […]
I don’t think the price of the ring is dispositive but I do kinda think that the amount of effort and money a man invests in engaging a woman and marry a woman can say something about the level of commitment and regard for her. Even if he is poor, he should want to give […]
It can happen. Your spouse gets an exciting new assignment in a foreign country and you pack up the family and go abroad to live this exciting jet-setting expat life and next thing you know, your marriage is caput. And it doesn’t matter if it is Paris or Dubai or Brazzaville. The net result is […]
Quick: If your husband stole your thrice worn Burberry scarf (which you saved up months to buy) and gave it to his whore mistress would you divorce him? I would. I wouldn’t even think about it twice. To me, it is not about the price of the scarf. It is the fact that he put […]
When I was a young woman of twenty-three, I had an affair with a married man. First of all, I really don’t know what I was thinking. Actually, I wasn’t thinking. I had met him during a conference and at first I thought he was single because he was not wearing a wedding band and […]
Brad and Angelina can teach us a lot of things but one of the key lessons, I think, is that too much change, upheaval and movement in a relationship is unsustainable. It is bad enough to have a partner who travels constantly for work. In Brangelina’s case they had enough resources that they tried to […]
A successful marriage takes work and nurture. But these tips or “marriage resolutions” are great if you use them for the entire year.