Is Phone Sex Grounds for Divorce? Or, is Phone Sex Grounds to Call Off Divorce

IS PHONE SEX GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE?

This is a delicious question: Is phone sex grounds for divorce? I never really thought about it. Until now. I am not even one hundred percent sure that I know what constitutes phone sex. Have I ever had phone sex? Let me think about this…..hme…well, many, many, years ago, I remember having this one conversation with a guy and he was trying to explain something to me that I think could have constituted pre-phone sex if not outright phone sex. It was not a conversation that turned me on. But it was a sexual thing he was explaining and at the time, I just couldn’t even believe that people actually did this. So I was gobsmacked and asked for more details just to make sure I was perfectly clear about what he was explaining (in particular, once you insert it, how do you take out, considering the shape and texture). It involved an egg. Course, now that Gwyneth Paltrow sells vaginal eggs on her website, as if this is perfectly normal, as if women actually insert these things into their vaginas, maybe this was not phone sex at all. Maybe he was just explaining that an egg, an entire uncooked egg, (or maybe it was cooked, I can’t even remember…maybe it wasn’t even a real egg!) can be inserted into a woman’s lady parts.

Was this phone sex? This was before the cell phone was invented and it was a landline we were talking on and he was not my boyfriend although he probably was interested in me (I had absolutely no designs on him, for the record) though clearly this was an inappropriate conversation that I had no business having with this mortal. But yea, does this constitute “phone sex”? Did I have “phone sex” according to the definition of that word? Cause this is as close as I came to this activity. For the record, I am not a phone sex kind of a girl. Sex is one of those things that I don’t think is properly conducted on a telephone.

With all that being said, I am not even sure why this brilliant idea for a post popped into my crazy, disturbed head, but it did. It just did; and I figured, what the heck, just go with it. If Gwyneth Paltrow can talk about vaginal eggs and sex in untoward parts of the body, I can wonder aloud if phone sex is grounds for divorce , and if it is even “real” sex.

I tell you what: I was reading on Google and a court actually ruled that phone sex is not real sex in a court in Baltimore Maryland a few years ago. I think the court is right. The conversation I had with this guy, I think his name was William, about the egg, was not real sex. I had no sexual desire for this individual. To me, he could have been talking about dissecting a pig. Neither of us was making sexy noises. You know, voilà, and so it could not have been “real sex.”

But if you are married, though, and you are on the phone with someone and you are making sexy noises and your intention is to have a sexual pleasure, to…reach a result, a climax, AND you do reach this result, I mean, I don’t know. This could constitute something. This could constitute sex. Notwithstanding the fact that you did not touch each other. Which, I think, is a prerequisite for there to be “sex.” There needs to be a touching. Don’t you think? I don’t know. I think if you are married and you intention is sexual pleasure, it is a form of cheating, a type of adultery and infidelity that yes, frankly, would be a basis for divorce in my marriage if that were my husband. This is as real as it gets indeed if your spouse is having this type of conversation with another person other than you. I think I disagree with the court.

With that said, another court decided that phone sex between a husband and wife did not “reset the divorce filing date.” I agree with that decision. You file for divorce and then you have sex (whether on the phone or otherwise) this does not change the filing of the divorce. You need to do more such as doing a stip to terminate the filing in order to reset the marriage as far as I am concerned. But it does not mean that you and your spouse DID NOT have a sexual encounter when you engaged in “phone sex.”

What do you think? Is phone sex grounds for divorce to your way of thinking? Is it “real” sex?

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