KEEPING UP WITH HUFFPOST DIVORCE: Blogger takes issue with the “Divorce Aphorism” of the day

I was just reading on this website which I linked to below, and the blogger seemed a bit up in arms about the Huff’s Divorce Aphorism of the day. Today’s aphorism was something like this: “When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn’t a sign that they don’t understand one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to.” Do you agree with that? I’m not sure if I do or not. I think maybe divorce is an acceptance that they don’t understand each other; but it certainly is NOT  a sign that they “have at last begun to understand each other.” What do you think? Does that “aphorism” make sense?

Anyways, the website, referenced one of Huff’s writers, Beverly Willet. I don’t know this author and I didn’t read the piece he references here:

Incidentally, welcome contrast to the rest of the HuffPost Divorce’s section, their featured article today is by Beverly Willett, who also believes that it’s the nature of love to bind itself. Earlier this summer, she got called all kinds of nasty names for suggesting as much in a column for the Daily Beast, in which she wrote of her dogged (but ultimately failed) effort to save her marriage. Reflecting on readers’ vitriolic response to her article, she asks “What was controversial about a woman who loved her husband and children more than anything and wanted to save her family from the heartaches of divorce? Was she really an “idiot,” a “psycho” bent on “revenge,” out to hog-tie the man who freely said “I do” into “forced slavery” because of her hard-headed sense of right and wrong?”

He got a lot of comments on this post which you can reference here I have to get familiar with this author as I don’t really know what he’s referring to since I did not read the piece. But check out that website. See what you think.

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0 Responses to "KEEPING UP WITH HUFFPOST DIVORCE: Blogger takes issue with the “Divorce Aphorism” of the day"

  1. Beverly Willett   November 14, 2010 at 11:44 am

    Hi, I read your post about the reposting of my recent HuffPost Divorce piece by Family Scholars. You can see more of my work at Regards, Beverly Willett

    • Jeannie Goldstein   November 14, 2010 at 12:11 pm

      You are welcomed, Beverly. Thanks for leaving this comment. Will check out the site soon.

  2. Kirk Peterson   November 14, 2010 at 12:08 pm

    Beverly Willet is one of the few people out there with the courage to stand up for marriage and the courage to speak out against the absolute disaster of “no fault” divorce.

    Is divorce sometimes necessary? Sure. But I would argue that it isn’t in probably 95% of the cases and that most so-called “irreteiveably broken” marriages are anything but.

    There’s a REASON that the vows say “Until DEATH do us part,” and not “Until I get bored of you do us part.”

    Ms. Willet has the intestinal fortitude to stand up for that principle. She is to ve admired for her brave stand.

    Thank you, Beverly.

    • Jeannie Goldstein   November 14, 2010 at 12:16 pm

      Kirk, thanks for the comment. I agree that there is at least an appearance that a lot of married people have failed to take the vows literally. Or even seriously. In some instances. I believe some marriages should end. But I also believe something is a little askew with “no fault” divorce – even while I recognize that isues such as domestic violence and addiction can literally plague a marriage to its demise. As a divorce professional, I believe, perhaps ironically, that divorce is too easy an option for too many people and that they have not given the institution of marriage enough respect. In some cases. Not all. But I think a part of the problem is the almost cavalier way some people enter marriage. I don’t think a lot of marriages that happened should have happened in the first place. That is a big part of the problem. Taking marriage seriously enough to say, you know what? I haven’t found the “right” person and so therefore, I’m going to stay out of this institution, I am going to have the courage to be single and alone, rather than marry the wrong person for me. Most people aren’t that intestinally fortified. Society packs too hard a wallop for singles who never married by 30. So they marry, and they settle, knowing it is not the right person. What happens? It ends in divorce, of course. What can I say?


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