IS YOUR EX ENGAGING IN POST-DIVORCE CYBERBULLYING? What can you do? Read on.
Do you need help dealing with a cyberbulling ex? I was browsing a website for teens askthejudge.info and one post jumped out at me: the one about cyberbullying. The admin of the blog, who is a judge referenced a case of a young woman who was arrested and will spend about a year in jail for sending herself threatening text messages, effectively framing her ex and members of his family. This went on for some time before law enforcement caught on to her. By that time her ex and a family member had spent time in prison for actions they never committed.
I thought, wow. I wonder how often that happens in a divorce context? I know that some spouses have accused their partners of domestic violence when it is not true. But this idea of using the Internet to stalk an ex spouse, or use phone technologies to “frame” a spouse, I have not seen a case in New York on that issue. But I find it hard to believe it’s not happening.
Even I have been cyber-stalked and I have a pretty good idea who the culprits were. (One has a British accent and has a penchant for impersonating people on livejournal and trying to tie their name to untold filth.) This case is still being worked on. Of course, this was not a spouse of mine, just a jealous angry person who felt threatened by me for some strange reason (I mean, she has everything why attack me?) and wanted to destroy my name and reputation. Yet, it baffled me that this individual would risk her professional career and license to do something that is basically illegal.
If this is happening to you and it’s an ex, or you suspect it’s your ex, you will likely need a lot of help from outside sources to overcome this. What I’ve come to realize is how powerful the Internet is, and how dangerous it is, and how almost demonic it can be when it gets in the hands of angry people who want to do you harm. And “these people” will stop at nothing to “get back” at you even after you have moved on after the divorce. They will even risk their licenses as professionals and their freedom (because if caught some of this stuff is actionable in the law) to get their pound of flesh.
What can you do to protect yourself? Well my advice is, first, know thine enemies. Second, scrupulously check your profile and Google yourself from time to time to see what’s out there. Third, contact law enforcement, including the FBI to get help from law enforcement if you suspect that your ex-spouse or anyone else is using the Internet to stalk you, defame you, or otherwise do you harm. And pray. That works when you least expect it sometimes.
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