We’ve been doing a lot of posts about teens & divorce lately. That is because of the dire statistics and information that we have been reading up on, that suggest that divorce is particularly damaging to children, and especially to teenagers. The question we are now asking ourselves, is whether, in New York, Governor Paterson should pull a surprise veto out of his hat and refuse to sign into law a bill that would make New York a “no fault divorce” zone like the rest of the country. Doing so would be in the best interest of the children of the State of New York.
Stats show that those states with no fault laws tend to have a higher divorce rate. It is no coincidence that a state like New York that is so populous, actually has one of the lowest rates of divorce in the U.S. comparatively speaking. Many attribute that to the State’s tougher divorce laws.
With no fault divorce, the divorce rates in New York will definitely climb. But that isn’t the only thing. A change to no fault will also negatively impact the state’s youth who are already struggling with more than their share of problems – particularly those in densely populated urban areas.
Arguably, Governor Paterson should veto the no fault bill and force parents with children who are under 18, to prove that the marriage has really broken down irretrievably, and to prove that by staying married, the child/children, will suffer grave physical or psychological harm.
Marriage is good for children. All the stats show that familial stability and a two parent home tends to produce better actualized kids and that divorce is actually very destructive to children and teens.
If Governor Paterson can’t find any good reasons to veto this bill, then he ought to do it for the children. It’s so easy. All he has to say is that his veto is in the best interest of the children. Who can fault him for that?
Even if the next governor turns around and signs a bill for no fault, at least Mr. Patterson can have the satisfaction of knowing that the lives of the youth of New York were not adversely affected by legislation that became law under his watch.
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