Does virginity at the alter predispose you to divorce?

I was reading this article and I came away wondering whether virginity is a prerequisite for a lasting marriage, or whether it’s a recipe for divorce: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090809/ap_on_re/us_rel_marrying_young

The thing with a virgin bride is she is more than likely going to be in her teens or early twenties. That is the age when a woman does not have a clue who she is and what she stands for. She’s still a baby in a woman’s body, trying to figure out her raison d’etre. I don’t think a woman of that age has any business getting married and having children. That’s just my personal opinion. When I look back on my life, I see clearly that it was have been heresy for me to have married anytime before age 30. I was just too clueless, immature and “childish”.

I quiver when I think about the likely outcome for a lot of these girls who rush into marriage because they want to be married as virgins. I mean, it’s nice to be that, I guess. There is nothing wrong with purity. Heck, if there was a way to stay a virgin after marriage, I’m all for it. I think the focus and emphasis on having sex is so ridiculous and idiotic. So it’s not that I’m saying that a person has to have sex before marriage. I’m not saying that. But I think that a person should be a real grown up before they get married. And that means getting married a bit older than teens or early twenties. And frankly, by mid-twenties, most folks are not going to be virgins anymore. But it’s okay, because I think getting married older (though probably already deflowered) is better in terms of the longevity potential of the marriage.

……….I feel like I didn’t make my point in this post…….do you understand what I am saying? What I’m trying to say is that maybe it’s not “virginity” that predisposes you to divorce, but the age you are when you marry–which will tend to be very young, and thus more likely to be a “virgin”–that predisposes you to divorce. The younger you are, the less suited you typically will be for tying yourself down for the rest of your life. The older you are, the more you will know yourself, and the more you will be able to discern who it is you are committing your life too–thus, the more likely you are to sustain a marriage (but of course, the older you are, the less likely you are to be a virgin).

Although, I have no problem with virginity even if you marry at 50. I mean, I say, die a virgin! Now, that’s an accomplishment.

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