California Man Ervin Lupoe and the ultimate domestic violence fiasco

Is it called domestic violence with an out-of work husband and father of five children under the age of 8 comes home, shoots his entire family, and then turns the gun on himself and kills himself? I am not sure how to answer that. But that is exactly what Ervin Antonio Lupoe did today. Apparently the recession was hard on him and his wife; they both lost their jobs and his only solution was murder suicide.

It’s a very very sad story, and one in a string of similar stories coming out of Southern California. But what does one make of it? Murder is violence and if it happens domestically, it is domestic violence. I just did a post this morning about domestic violence, about how a woman might be able to detect, before marriage, that the man might be prone to be an abuser, here: http://www.divorcesaloon.com/divorce-violence.

How does a woman protect herself from this though? This almost random act of insanity? I mean, it was random, right? It’s not like they were having marital problems on top of financial ones? And, I mean, how does a woman protect herself from recession that is basically destroying families across the world and a husband who is blinded with the problems this creates in his personal life? I guess she cannot. I mean, does someone who does something like this, I mean, is someone like this prone to violence otherwise? Or do they just snap? I don’t understand.

It’s funny because I was thinking about this blog at the gym tonight and I was thinking I ought to write a post called “how to fight a domestic violence case” when I got back to my laptop. I didn’t expect to hear yet another case like the guy Bruce Jeffrey Pardo who snapped on Christmas Day and killed his wife and some of her family members. This is too much.

Do these people give signs? I mean, on the one hand, as a human being, you can almost understand that sometimes, people can be pushed beyond their limits and that they can snap. But this is still violence. Deadly violence, nonetheless. And it is still wrong. The fact that Bruce Pardo may have felt that he got a raw deal in court and the fact that Ervin Lupoe lost his job is not an excuse for murder. Mass murder. Of their own families.

I mean, even if either of these families had orders of protection against these men, I don’t think it would have helped them in these particular situations. The traditional ways of protecting oneself in a domestic violence situation just wouldn’t  have applied in either of these cases. Well, in the Pardo case, perhaps. To an extent. But in Lupoe’s case, if he was otherwise a good man and a good husband and father and he snapped and went berserk after he lost his job, boy. He was just a loose canon and there was nothing his wife Ana Lupoe could have done.

Jesus. They were such a beautiful family.

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